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So you can't forgive...? Moving towards freedom is at once comforting and challenging. In this easy read, Brian Lennon SJ makes the necessary distinction between forgiving and forgiveness. In noting that forgiving is something which can only be done by a victim, whereas forgiveness involves the actions of both victim and perpetrator, the victim is at once empowered and enabled to become a survivor.
Lent, though not always seen as such, is a privileged time in our liturgical calendar where we are afforded the ability to take stock, to reflect and come to a greater understanding of our relationships - with others, the world around us, but also with ourselves.
Very often, these reflections can render us feeling guilty for an inability to be in right-relations with all aspects of our lives. So You Can't Forgive...? is a powerful aid in this regard, as the author consistently points out that feelings such as anger, guilt and revenge, which are often deemed to be taboo by our society, are indeed feelings which are "natural, understandable, and appropriate". In essence, the author affords the reader the ability to acknowledge these feelings and so to move on. Enabled to journey forward, this book provides the reader with practical tools for that journey.
As a Christian, one can very often feel under pressure to forgive, the author does not avoid this issue, but asks the question: "Is the Bible a burden or a help to us when we have been deeply wronged?" In doing so, Lennon provides us with some relevant scripture passages, but also with a variety of interpretations which again are useful aids on this journey.
Forgiving is a topic which doesn't lend itself to humour, and yet the author manages to intertwine good humour into this book, even opening up new perspectives to turning the other cheek!
Specifically of interest to those who have been affected by violence, abuse or family disputes, and also to those working alongside them So You Can't Forgive...? Moving towards Freedom, is a book worth reading.
Review by Mags O'Shea
Brian Lennon SJ. So you can't forgive...? Moving towards freedom. Columba, Dublin, 2009. ISBN: 9781856076371 |